Life in Mascara: A COUPLE'S PRAYER

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

A COUPLE'S PRAYER


When husband and I did our marriage retreat, the nun leading our prayer group suggested we do Bible study as a couple as soon as we were married. She encouraged us not to wait long so it became part of our routine, a habit, and not something we later had to try and fit in. I turned to husband and almost jokingly asked him if he would go with me. He said sure we just need to find a time. I was surprised at his answer, the fact that he was open to it really. I turned around and never brought it up. But still it stayed with me. In the back of my mind I loved the idea of a couple coming together in prayer out of love for each other and out of love and devotion to God.

Some months back when my dog Bear was really sick I was desperate to save him even though I told Bear if he needed to let go he could. But one night I was so broken hearted over him, listening as hard as I could to make sure he was breathing even, that I asked husband to pray with me. I had never done that before except for grace over meals. He graciously agreed and we layed there, his arm around me, and his other hand holding mine to his chest and I led us in prayer.
I was so filled with love for that man because he knows how important my dogs are in my life that he prayed with me. I told him so. I told him how much it made me love him over it. We have since prayed together practically every night.

I think it was a very defining moment in our marriage thus far. I am a woman of faith and devotion. In all honesty, I don't go to mass every Sunday. And I didn't go to mass at all for many years. But now that I have a job that allows me to be off on Sundays, I do make a conscious effort to go. While he believes, he isn't active in our church. I don't press him over it or about going to mass with me because I believe it isn't something you force on a person. You have to want to be a part of that community. And while he does go to mass with me occasionally, nothing meant more to me than him joining me in prayer. It was monumental. 

For years I have seen my father pray the rosary with my mother every day. He is almost as disciplined at it as she is. Almost. But still he prays with her with so much devotion and there is nothing that I love more than when I talk to him and he tells me we prayed for you. When I go home, I join them in prayer as well. I knew I wanted a marriage as solid as my parents based in friendship, love, and faith. Faith in each other and faith in the Lord. Husbands' step in praying together made me feel that our family's roots were cemented in the right stock. With God's blessing we will grow. 

6 comments:

  1. I love this post! Whenever I see or hear about my parents praying together or studying the Bible together, I know that if/when I get married I want that to be part of my marriage as well.

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    1. Absolutely! It really makes you closer to your spouse and brings this sort of mutual appreciation.

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  2. This is so beautiful and I COMPLETELY agree with the title. The best, most solid relationships are built on prayer, and commitment to God! Wonderful post :)

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    1. Yes! God is the underlining of all things.

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  3. This is lovely. I am currently reading "The Power of a Praying Wife" You might enjoy it too! It's all about the power of prayer in a marriage!

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    1. I will need to check it out! Thanks for the heads up.

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